Life and Spiritual Coaching
Life and Spiritual Coaching is all about helping people get from where they are in their life to where they want to get to.
If everyone is being honest with themselves, I think we could all do with improving an area or two of our lives. But why don’t people do anything about it? Everyone knows what to do in life to become more successful but they don’t do what they know.
It is a Life Coach’s job to help people get what they want in life in by breaking down the barriers that people impose on themselves.
The best analogy you can ever use is that of a Personal Fitness Trainer. When you go to a gym they will first ask you what your goals are:
- Do you want to lose weight?
- Lose fat?
- Build muscle?
- Build endurance?
- Increase stamina?
They will then see where you are at with regards to your goal. So for example, if you want to lose body fat they may ask you to take a body fat composition test that will measure your current levels of body fat, you may be asked to take a fitness test, asked what your current eating habits are etc.
After establishing exactly how much you want to lose and over what period of time you want to lose it, the trainer will then devise a plan of action of what you must do in order to achieve your fat reduction goals.
Along the way, your personal fitness trainer will encourage and motivate you, ask you questions about your motivations and any barriers that you face and will help you.
The end goal of a trainer is to help you achieve your goals a lot quicker and more effectively than if you did it yourself.
A Life Coach does EXACTLY the same as a Personal Trainer but with areas of your life.
José Alberto Neves specialises in the following therapies:
It is a valuable adjunct in psychotherapy, psychiatry and medicine; however it is probably the lowest risk procedure available from the standpoint of contradictions.
Few therapeutic procedures are less understood and more plagued by misconceptions and misunderstandings.
Before considering what Hypnosis is, perhaps it would be appropriate to establish what it is not! Most Hypnotherapists, on interviewing a new client, will ask what he or she thinks hypnosis is. Replies range from sleep, unconsciousness, surrender of mental powers and control, to magic and voodoo. All are in error
. Hypnosis cannot be sleep. In most cases the subject is fully aware of communication and is able to respond on request either verbally or by signal. Neither is unconsciousness involved. A subject asked to make a specific movement will comply with the request unless it is objectionable, in which case there will be no movement.
There is no surrender of mind or control.
A person who does not want to be hypnotized cannot be hypnotized or be induced to do or say anything that violates personal standards of behaviour or integrity. There is neither magic nor voodoo involved.
Any Hypnotherapist can explain the actions or behaviours seen in stage, film or television shows, where the subject seems to follow directions mindlessly. Actually, hypnosis is better described than defined. It is often considered an altered state of consciousness featuring “selective thinking”, a process in which the subject ( who is in control ) chooses to see only what is relevant to their task, blocking out everything else.
Hypnosis involves guided concentration. The guidance, however, may be provided by a qualified practitioner or, in the case of self-hypnosis, by the individual.
Self-hypnosis can be a properly certified hypnotherapist and learned by virtually every client. Hypnosis can provide the recipient with a lifetime of benefits.
Hypnosis is defined by the International and Dental Hypnotherapy Association in this manner. “Hypnosis is an education and communication process to a person’s mind that allows the conscious and subconscious mind to believe the same message. During Hypnosis, the body and conscious mind are in a relaxed neutral state, while the subconscious remains awake and receptive to suggestions”.
Your first visit with your hypnotherapist will, primary, be exploratory. You will learn about hypnotism and become comfortable with it. Your hypnotherapist will discuss your interests and your desires to determine if hypnotherapy can accomplish what you want to achieve.
If you both feel that it will be worthwhile to proceed, your hypnotherapist may give you some small test to determine your type of suggestibility, your ability to relax, your skills at visualization – procedures which help your therapist adapt to you as an individual.
Next the hypnotherapist will take you through a full body relaxation and hypnosis exercise. During this you feel; light and airy as though you were floating, heavy like a lump of lead with arms or legs so heavy you don’t want to move them, your eyes may water, and you will feel profound relaxed. Any or all of these physical signs accompany hypnosis.
This relaxation/hypnosis exercise may be done with the use of a cassette tape, CD or personally in the hypnotist’s office.
These unconscious factors may create unhappiness, sometimes in the form of recognizable symptoms and at other times as troubling personality traits, difficulties in work or in love relationships, or disturbances in mood and self-esteem.
Because these forces are unconscious, the advice of friends and family, the reading of self-help books, or even the most determined efforts of will, often fail to provide relief.
Psychoanalytic treatment demonstrates how these unconscious factors affect current relationships and patterns of behaviour, traces them back to their historical origins, shows how they have changed and developed over time, and helps the individual to deal better with the realities of adult life.
Analysis is an intimate partnership, in the course of which the patient becomes aware of the underlying sources of his or her difficulties not simply intellectually, but emotionally – by re-experiencing them with the analyst.
Typically, the patient comes four or five times a week, lies on a couch, and attempts to say everything that comes to mind. These conditions create the analytic setting, which permits the emergence of aspects of the mind not accessible to other methods of observation.
As the patient speaks, hints of the unconscious sources of current difficulties gradually begin to appear – in certain repetitive patterns of behaviour, in the subjects which the patient finds hard to talk about, in the ways the patient relates to the analyst.
The analyst helps elucidate these for the patient, who refines, corrects, rejects, and adds further thoughts and feelings.
During the years that an analysis takes place, the patient wrestles with these insights, going over them again and again with the analyst and experiencing them in daily life, in fantasies, and in dreams.
Patient and analyst join in efforts not only to modify crippling life patterns and remove incapacitating symptoms, but also to expand the freedom to work and to love. Eventually the patient’s life – his or her behaviour, relationships, sense of self – changes in deep and abiding ways.
The term meditation refers to a broad variety of practices that includes techniques designed to promote relaxation, build internal energy or life force (qi, ki, prana, etc.) and develop compassion, love, patience, generosity and forgiveness. A particularly ambitious form of meditation aims at effortlessly sustained single-pointed concentration meant to enable its practitioner to enjoy an indestructible sense of well-being while engaging in any life activity.
The word meditation carries different meanings in different contexts. Meditation has been practiced since antiquity as a component of numerous religious traditions and beliefs.
Meditation often involves an internal effort to self-regulate the mind in some way.
Meditation is often used to clear the mind and ease many health concerns, such as high blood pressure, depression, and anxiety. It may be done sitting, or in an active way—for instance, Buddhist monks involve awareness in their day-to-day activities as a form of mind-training.
Prayer beads or other ritual objects are commonly used during meditation in order to keep track of or remind the practitioner about some aspect of the training.
Meditation may involve generating an emotional state for the purpose of analyzing that state—such as anger, hatred, etc.—or cultivating a particular mental response to various phenomena, such as compassion.
The term “meditation” can refer to the state itself, as well as to practices or techniques employed to cultivate the state. Meditation may also involve repeating a mantra and closing the eyes.
The mantra is chosen based on its suitability to the individual mediator.
Meditation has a calming effect and directs awareness inward until pure awareness is achieved, described as “being awake inside without being aware of anything except awareness itself.
In brief, there are dozens of specific styles of meditation practice, and many different types of activity commonly referred to as meditative practices
A Brief Overview
Reiki is a Japanese technique for stress reduction and relaxation that also promotes healing. It is administered by “laying on hands” and is based on the idea that an unseen “life force energy” flows through us and is what causes us to be alive. If one’s “life force energy” is low, then we are more likely to get sick or feel stress, and if it is high, we are more capable of being happy and healthy.
The word Reiki is made of two Japanese words – Rei which means “God’s Wisdom or the Higher Power” and Ki which is “life force energy”. So Reiki is actually “spiritually guided life force energy.”
A treatment feels like a wonderful glowing radiance that flows through and around you. Reiki treats the whole person including body, emotions, mind and spirit creating many beneficial effects that include relaxation and feelings of peace, security and wellbeing. Many have reported miraculous results.
Reiki is a simple, natural and safe method of spiritual healing and self-improvement that everyone can use.
It has been effective in helping virtually every known illness and malady and always creates a beneficial effect.
It also works in conjunction with all other medical or therapeutic techniques to relieve side effects and promote recovery.
An amazingly simple technique to learn, the ability to use Reiki is not taught in the usual sense, but is transferred to the student during a Reiki class. This ability is passed on during an “attunement” given by a Reiki master and allows the student to tap into an unlimited supply of “life force energy” to improve one’s health and enhance the quality of life.
Its use is not dependent on one’s intellectual capacity or spiritual development and therefore is available to everyone. It has been successfully taught to thousands of people of all ages and backgrounds.
While Reiki is spiritual in nature, it is not a religion.
It has no dogma, and there is nothing you must believe in order to learn and use Reiki. In fact, Reiki is not dependent on belief at all and will work whether you believe in it or not. Because Reiki comes from God, many people find that using Reiki puts them more in touch with the experience of their religion rather than having only an intellectual concept of it.
While Reiki is not a religion, it is still important to live and act in a way that promotes harmony with others. Mikao Usui, the founder of the Reiki system of natural healing, recommended that one practice certain simple ethical ideals to promote peace and harmony, which are nearly universal across all cultures.
During a meditation several years after developing Reiki, Mikao Usui decided to add the Reiki Ideals to the practice of Reiki. The Ideals came in part from the five principles of the Meiji emperor of Japan whom Mikao Usui admired. The Ideals were developed to add spiritual balance to Usui Reiki. Their purpose is to help people realize that healing the spirit by consciously deciding to improve oneself is a necessary part of the Reiki healing experience. In order for the Reiki healing energies to have lasting results, the client must accept responsibility for her or his healing and take an active part in it. Therefore, the Usui system of Reiki is more than the use of the Reiki energy.
It must also include an active commitment to improve oneself in order for it to be a complete system. The ideals are both guidelines for living a gracious life and virtues worthy of practice for their inherent value.
The secret art of inviting happiness:
The miraculous medicine of all diseases
Just for today, do not anger
Do not worry and be filled with gratitude
Devote yourself to your work. Be kind to people.
Every morning and evening, join your hands in prayer.
Pray these words to your heart
and chant these words with your mouth
Usui Reiki Treatment for the improvement of body and mind
The founder, Usui Mikao
Apart from the physical benefits, essential oils can have subtle effects on the mind and emotions.
The essential oils taken from plants and used in Aromatherapy have been described as their “life force” – they are essential to the plants’ biological process, as well as being the substance which gives them their scent.
Synthetic oils, even if chemically similar, will lack all the natural elements, and that vital life-force, that make essential oils so valuable therapeutically.
Another reason why synthetic oils are not acceptable, is that the minor constituents are never identical. The addition of synthetic chemicals is not normally disclosed in the essential oil business, so unless there is a declaration that the oils are natural, pure and unadulterated, assume otherwise.
Essential oils are extracted from flowers; herbs; spices; woods and fibres, usually by distillation, expression and solvent extraction.
Solvent extraction is only acceptable for aromatherapy if the solvent used is completely removed after the manufacturing process
By applying the technique, reflexology’s can break up patterns of stress in other parts of the body. Stress is a barrier to the body’s return to a normal state of equilibrium.
There are many theories but in our approach we look at the nervous system as the explanation of reflexology’s working.
Pressure applied to the feet, generates a signal through the peripheral nervous system. From there it enters the central nervous system where it is processed in various parts of the brain. It is then relayed to the internal organs to allocate the necessary adjustments in fuel and oxygen, finally a response is fashioned that is sent onto the motor system.
This message is feed forward to adjust the body’s tone, or overall tension level. If applied properly the tone will reset itself to a lower operating tempo. A lower operating tempo means a lessening of stress and less wear and tear on the body’s systems.
There are a variety of people doing reflexology, from concerned parents to doctors in China. It is a useful tool for a variety of situations.
Many professions have taken up reflexology from cosmetologists to nurses.
Reflexology is now being introduced into hospitals and HMO’s. It is even being considered for insurance reimbursement.
There are full time professionals doing reflexology.
We think the future looks bright for reflexology and the profession of reflexology.
Past Life Regression
Most of us have had the experience of meeting someone for the first time, and falling immediately into a comfortable relationship “just like old friends.” Or visiting a new part of the world, only to find it feels very familiar somehow. These are often instances of re-encountering people and places we have known in prior lifetimes.
We unconsciously carry forward experiences, attitudes, and relationship dynamics from prior lives into our current lifetime. Many times this is beneficial, as in cases where we just have a “knack” for numbers, or seem to master a new skill or area of study as if we already knew it. Other times, traumatic experiences — like a violent death or loss of a loved one — are left unresolved. Troubled relationships may be left in a state of conflict. Attitudes and decisions that resulted from or worked well in a prior lifetime may be carried forward into the current life in ways that are detrimental. That is where regression therapy was first applied, in resolving these experiences from the past that are blocking our progress and happiness now. In addition, past-life therapy is now also used to uncover and reinforce the strengths and positive experiences we are carrying forward with us.
Trauma and issues from the past can be reactivated by events in our current lifetime without our conscious awareness. We might react to people and situations in ways that seem counter-productive, or we have a “gridlock” problem that we can’t seem to resolve no matter what we try. It may be because the problem is actually rooted in dynamics set up in prior personalities/lifetimes.
In past-life therapy we regress clients (to regress means to go or move backward) to the time and place where the original activating event occurred. This can be achieved through hypnosis, guided imagery, or other states of deep relaxation where memories that are normally unconscious can be accessed.
Similar techniques are often used to access early childhood memories from the current lifetime that may be underlying present-day problems and issues. By bringing these memories into conscious awareness, we can release or diffuse the energy and emotional blockages that keep us stuck. Typically, the therapist guides the client through the significant events of the lifetime, through the death experience, and then a “life review.” This is where the purpose of that lifetime, the lessons learned, and decisions made are examined from a higher, spiritual perspective. We particularly look at what is most important about that prior life in terms of the client’s current personality and situation.
Re-experiencing the key events of a past-life and reprocessing the impact helps to bring closure to the events of that lifetime. This enables us to move forward more freely in the present. The process is similar to conventional therapy: we trace issues to their origin, reprocess the experience, emotions, and decisions made, and find completion. Past-life regression work merely extends the time frame further into the past for the deeper origins of issues.
Even if one believes these “memories” are not true past-life experiences, they function as symbolic stories and are equally as effective in resolving current issues.
Once considered a “new age” gimmick, regression therapy is becoming accepted in the mainstream as an extremely useful therapeutic tool. It can be a rapid approach to bring up material in a single or just a few sessions that might otherwise take many months of traditional counselling to address.
And it can be useful, as well, for those who would not otherwise consider themselves in need of counselling or therapy service — people who want to expand their experience, draw upon inner wisdom, and connect with loved ones across the ages.
Alignment of the Chakras
Chakra Balancing Aligning Your 7 Chakras for Greater Physical, Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Health.
Why is chakra balancing important?
Keeping our physical body alive, healthy and functioning well is a complex exercise in balancing. It’s called homeostasis, and it keeps all the chemicals, hormones, and processes of our body in harmony with each other.
If our body deviates from a state of homeostasis, we’re in trouble. In the same way, our chakras must be in balance and aligned with each other. When our chakras (or any aspect of our energy system) are out of balance, it can have a profound impact on our physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health.
When they are out of balance/alignment, both our bodies and our lives are likely to be out of balance as well. We may find that we are illness- or accident-prone, or that our lives are unhappy, unsatisfying, or chaotic.
Sound healing expert Jonathan Goldman compares the body to a musical orchestra, where the individual players represent physical or energetic organs. If one “instrument” (like a chakra) gets off tune or out of balance, the sound of the entire orchestra (the health of your entire body) is off, and pretty soon the other players (other part of your physical or energetic system) start to veer off-tune, too.
How to Tell If Chakra Balancing is needed energetically, what characterizes a chakra system that is in balance?
Energy flows through the chakra system in two ways. First, it flows up and down along your central channel, base of spine to top of head, connecting the chakras. Second, it flows horizontally, in an exchange of energy with the cosmos.
In a balanced chakra system: Energy flows freely vertically, reaching all the chakras: none of the chakras are blocked. Energy flows freely horizontally: each chakra exchanges energy freely with the cosmos. None of the chakras is substantially more open or spinning faster/slower than the others: none is significantly overactive or underactive in comparison to the rest. Each of the chakras is opened to the degree needed to support your health and spiritual development: none of the seven chakras is open too wide, or closed down too tight. Neither the upper chakras nor the lower chakras are over-emphasized.
Many energy healers will be able to perceive your chakras and whether they are balanced, open, and healthy. But it’s not really necessary to be able to perceive them in order to evaluate them and their state of balance, because when there is an imbalance in your chakra system, it will eventually manifest in your body, emotions, thoughts, or your life. In other words, it will show up clearly in the physical world at some point.
How would a person with a healthy, balanced chakra system most likely look?
Body is healthy enough to support individual spiritual journey/fulfilment of life purpose well grounded, secure, confident, in touch with own body in touch with their emotions, but not overwhelmed by them comfortable with their own sexuality self-confident, able to manifest their desires without dominating others compassionate, loving, healthy relationships; in touch with nature able to express own truth, to listen as well as speak, to create intellect balanced with wisdom, in touch with intuition sense of connection with the divine Complete Balance and Alignment Not Necessary It’s not necessary, however, for our chakras to be perfectly, completely balanced, all at the same level of open-ness and activation.
For most people, one or more chakras stand out as being stronger than the others. This is normal and not at all undesirable. It’s only necessary that the chakras not be wildly out of alignment, such as one chakra that is nearly shut down, or one that is blown wide open in comparison to the others. Your body and your life will give you the information you need to know if your chakras need balancing. Imbalance in the Chakras Sometimes people on a path of spiritual development will over-emphasize the top chakras, believing that this is the way to become enlightened. In my personal view, this is a mistake. The body is not less holy than the spirit.
They are both aspects of energy, and need to be balanced in order for us to make the most of our physical incarnation. Indeed, someone with a top-heavy chakra system–the top three or four chakras overactive in relation to the three bottom chakras–might be spacey and ungrounded, have difficulty finishing things, have difficulty concentrating, lack “common sense,” be “out of touch,” and just generally have difficulty living in the world. On the other hand, sometimes people are out of balance with the lower three chakras overactive in comparison to the entire system. Such individuals might lack imagination and creativity, lack vision, lack higher dreams, feel unconnected to the divine, be overly sexual, lack higher reasoning power, be overbearing and unsubtle, be “plodding,” get trapped in the minutiae or the drama of life, and generally have a hard time rising above the basic physicality of life.
The patient is the one who is responsible for accepting the healing.
As a healer, it’s wise to remember that, when we ask for spiritually aid to help another in distress, we immediately summon great help from Spirit world.
When we forget who we are, and begin to focus on the negative or that which is unwanted, we create imbalances in our energy fields that can lead to disease.
The key to rebalancing the energy field is to focus not at all on what is not wanted (the ailment), but to visualize only what is wanted (perfect health) with positive expectancy.
Finally, there are no hard rules for energy healing. It’s an intuitive and inspired process. Trust that if you set a high intention, all you have to do is allow magic to happen!
A simple crystal healing is to place crystals of the appropriate colour and energy at corresponding chakra points. This will cleanse and energize the chakras.
Here is a list of the chakras with stones that may prove beneficial:
- Root chakra Jasper (bloodstone), garnet, onyx, rubies
- Second chakra (womb): hematite, moonstone
- Third chakra (solar plexus): citrine, amber, topaz
- Fourth chakra (heart): rose quartz, Chinese Fluorite
- Fifth chakra (throat): aquamarine, turquoise
- Sixth chakra (third eye): sapphire, turquoise, amethyst
- Seventh chakra (crown): clear quartz or amethyst
It’s a good idea to “stroke down” and cleanse the aura energetically before applying the energies of the stones, one by one, to the chakras.
Begin with the root chakra, and imagine energy rising from the base of the spine up through the crown of the head as you move upward. Visualize each chakra being energized and expanding in turn.
Clear quartz can be used to simply magnify all healing efforts. Try holding a point in your hand as you scan the aura (point facing out), and then face the point in as you send healing and harmonizing energy.
Another powerful healing technique involves the use of two clear quarts points. Sit at the feet of the patient with the point of the crystal in your right hand facing in at the bottom of the patient’s left foot, and the point of the crystal in your left hand pointing out at the bottom of the patient’s right foot.
Send energy up through your right hand (patient’s left foot) and visualize it channelling all through the body, all up the left side, and through and down the right side and out the right foot.
Imagine a continue circle of energy going in and flowing out. The key is to visualize ease of flow and balance. Visualize all stagnant energies breaking up and melting down, and new clarity and flow being established.
All unwanted energies will be washed through, and new vitality and well-being will fill the energy field.
Dopamine is a chemical naturally produced by the body that helps to keep the central nervous system and overall balance functioning smoothly. In short, dopamine helps us feel good. When high levels of stress are present this balance is disrupted, leading to feelings of depression and anxiety. The kneading and pressure on the muscles provided through massage therapy encourages the release of dopamine and thereby helps the body to manage stress better.
Relax, Relax, Relax
It is relaxing: One of the byproducts of excessive stress is a tightening of the muscles and an overall feeling of tension. It’s like your teeth are clenched all the time. Our bodies cannot handle stress appropriately without the removal of tension; and no drug or artificial stimulant can help us to relax better than a natural massage therapy treatment. A good massage table is designed with relaxation in mind: you literally sink into comfort from the moment you climb aboard. The combination of the therapist’s skills, quiet music and perhaps aromatherapy all work together to help the body achieve a completely relaxed state.
The Bottom Line
If chronic stress is manifesting itself through physical pain and debilitating depression, regular massage therapy treatments can help your body heal itself naturally and give your mind the relief it needs from your daily cares and worries. You have great powers for self-healing: a good massage therapist can help.
Students and Exams
Of course, being nervous is understandable when the clock is ticking and rapidly counting down the minutes until the allotted time is up; and being aware of that relentlessly ticking clock makes it difficult for students to breathe, let alone think. This state of sheer panic, however, can be overcome. In fact, if students learn a proven relaxation technique, they can alleviate most, if not all, of their stress and, consequently, perform well on tests, that is, assuming they have studied effectively and prepared in advance.
And yes, lots of luck with those exams.
Orientation on Spiritual Matters
- MENTAL, PHYSICAL AND SPIRITUAL DISORDERS
- OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE BEHAVIOUR
- EXHAUSTED SELF-HEALING
- COURSES ON MEDITATION, REIKI I, II
REIKI MASTER, ( GRA. RMT/ NHA )
HYPNOTHERAPIST, ( IMDHA)
REGRESSION OF PAST LIFES , ( IMDHA)